New England Yearly Meeting

A community of Quakers and Quaker meetings across New England.

Nonviolent Communication: A Spiritual Practice and Act of Social Change


Friday, June 21, 2019 - 5:00pm to Sunday, June 23, 2019 - 1:00pm


524 Pitt Hall Road
Old Chatham , NY
New York


Friends are called to see that of God in each person and be peacemakers. These two convictions are intimately connected: If God is in each of us, how could we possibly wish to harm or hurt God—who is pure love? And it is this spiritual belief—and experience (via meeting for worship) that is the basis of Quaker commitment to social change: As there is that of God in each of us, each person must be treated with dignity, care and respect. Yet it’s not always easy to put these convictions into practice. Those around us—at home, work, and even in our meeting, can do or say things that we don’t like, disagree with, find hurtful, infuriating, or even plain wrong. So how do we in these moments reconnect with that of God in others and ourselves—and speak truth to power? During this weekend intensive training in compassionate Nonviolent Communication, we will learn practical skills to put Quaker principles into action: self-managing our own reactions, empathizing with others, and finding solutions that restore harmony, are in integrity with our values, and hold everyone’s needs with care. Highly interactive and including exercises, games, pair work, role play and music, the workshop will explore core practices of Nonviolent Communication as well more advanced practices such as protective use of force and how the very way we communicate each day can be a radical act of social change.

About the facilitator: Dian Killian, PhD, has been a Certified Trainer with the International Center for Nonviolent Communication for 12 years and has offered NVC training around the world. She is co-author of two well loved NVC books, Connecting across Differences: How to Connect with Anyone, Anywhere (in English and German) and Urban Empathy: True Life Adventures of Compassion on the Streets of New York. She is known for sharing NVC in a clear, down-to-earth and engaging way with humor and stories.

Special Event for the weekend: Empathy Songs and Stories

On Saturday evening, Dian will share music and stories with us. A champion mountain dulcimer performer and singer-songwriter, she has performed at the Philadelphia Folk Festival, People’s Voice Cafe, Rockwood Music Hall and many other venues. Come learn more about empathy via song!

Register by June 7, 2019: $295/adults; $200/ages 13-22; $220/commuter or camper

after June 7, 2019: $310/$230/$250

CHILDCARE WITH 3 WEEKS NOTICE for children up to 12 years old, at $50/child

Register here.

Contact Information

New England Yearly Meeting of Friends

901 Pleasant Street, Worcester, MA 01602

(508) 754-6760 - [email protected]